Overcoming Hurt

Old Point Loma Lighthouse

A pencil needs to go through a sharpener in order to become useful.

One has to go through hurt and pain to achieve a new level of realization. We call those experiences, however, overcoming them is not something easy.

They say, “the older, the wiser.” It means old people have more experiences, thus they are wise. I agree in that saying, however, one can have all the experiences, but if this person does not share or help the younger generation, it is useless.

If you ask young people today, and the answer they say is, “I don’t know.” Well, they are mostly not lying, they don’t really know. They can google the answer, but if they don’t have the experience, they know nothing. Then, it is important for us who been through a lot of hurt and pain to help other people.

One thing that most young people think when they are going through hurt and pain, most think that they are the only one dealing with that pain. I want my young readers to understand that there are people out there that dealt the same problem that you are having now.

Five years ago, I was dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, I didn’t even know I was having PTSD symptoms until I was in counseling therapy. At first, I try to figure things out on my own, but I was hurting people around me. I need to leave people and places in order to achieve healing from this hurt, a hurt that was rooted all the way when I was three years old. It was deeply rooted that even today, I am still healing from it. But, when I went to counseling and was given resources who to reach out and what to search online, I met plenty of people that dealt the same hurt that I had. I wasn’t the only one dealing with this pain that I thought only unique to me. Slowly, I started healing. People were giving me coping techniques. I am learning to overcome this pain, not just overcome it but actually embrace the pain. Not in a masochistic way, but more on enduring and growing and learning from it. Yes, it hurts, but if you can see the future that there is hope, because others are okay, then you will be okay as well.

Adult PTSD from Child Sexual Abuse is hard to overcome. I am meeting the founder of Speak Your Silence this week. If you’ve seen my orange zigzag symbol in my hat, my car, and my clothes, that is our symbol. It means the frequency of our voice. There is a stigma when it comes to Child Sexual Abuse, thus, most people will never ever talk about it. I want my readers to know that I want to be that older adult that went through that sharpener, the pain, but I know I will be useful to others. I will listen to your story. I want you to know that you are not alone.

I also have experiences with depression, suicide, and cancer. Message me if you want to talk.

P.S. This is Part 1 of a 3 Part Series about Hurt.